There are so many different ways of dating nowadays that it kind of makes your head spin. You can do it the “old-fashioned” way, where you meet or are introduced, you go on a few dates, and then you decide you want to be in a relationship. There’s another that people seem to be very into, which is hook-up dating, when you hook up with one person exclusively. I guess I understand this, if you’re not looking for anything serious.
The one that I don’t understand is when it’s this weird, in-between both of those kinds of dating, where you don’t know whether you’re actually in a relationship with that person, or you’re just “having fun”. This bugs me for a few different reasons, but the biggest issue I have with this is what I believe to be the cause: emotional laziness.
We have become SO lazy. Not just with our binge-watching, responsibility-avoiding attitudes (guilty), but with dating, as well.
We’ve gotten stuck in this rut of, “We have a good thing going, but I’m not willing to put in the time or effort to actually date you… But I still want the benefits of being in a relationship with you without working for it.”
… I’m sorry, what?
Since when did we just stop doing relationships? Are you afraid to call it what it is- hooking up- because you’ve invested enough feelings to sort of care about the other person, but have kept yourself guarded enough to not want to call them your S/O? Are we so afraid of actually committing to someone that we just go through life not knowing if we’re dating someone or not?
Personally, I’m so tired of this. Casual dating is one thing, but if you want me to invest time in you, you had better be prepared to invest time in me, as well. Emotional laziness will no longer be tolerated in my dating life, and I hope anyone reading this knows that they deserve better, too.